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THE
PROBLEM WITH “I LOVE YOU”.
The problem is we use the word ‘love’ for such a diverse range
of things, is it any wonder poor male brains get confused:
‘I love pizza, I love footy, I love my mum, I love my collection
of porn magazines, I love that perfume you’re wearing and I LOVE
YOU!
In the ancient sanskrit there were 96 words for love. In ancient
Persia there were 80, in Latin 5, Greek 4 and English only 1.
The ancients were smart when they divided this up into rather
more categories, and men know this more than anyone. Science
has classified them chemically into 4 sections…….
THE K.I.S.S FACTOR
KISS is the driving force behind all men’s relationship; the big
boy version of being loved or left alone,
played with and fed. Your level on this score sheet
will determine your ‘worth’ to him.
K is for Kindred (loved): Attention to our ego. We like to feel
wanted and loved; it’s good for our self-esteem, even if we have
no intention of returning the emotion.
Alternate sources: Friends, admirers, work colleagues,
compliments and praise in general.
I
is for Independence (left alone): Left alone to go inside his head
or cave. To remain as hassle-free as possible. To have his
space, follow his own ideas and let his will be done.
Alternate sources: Single life, time playing sports, work,
exercise, holidays.
S is for Sex (play): More to the point, exciting physical activity.
Also includes anything with an adrenaline or feel-good rush.
Alternate sources: Hookers, porn, strip joints, affairs, sports,
parties, anything exhilarating.
S is for Services (fed): The mothering, domestic or care need.
Alternate sources: Laundromat, mother, maid, home delivery,
restaurants, underlings.
JUST US
Men want the same thing from their underwear that they want from
women: a little bit of support and a little bit of freedom.
Jerry Seinfeld
IS HE A PLAYER OR A
STAYER
Men
in relationships come in two flavours no matter which variation
on the boy meet girl theme you pick, or where on the T scale
they sit.
Those
who are’ in’ a relationship – The Stayer
Those
who are ‘having’ a relationship – The Player.
What’s the difference you ask?
The
difference is that you’re most likely reading this book because
of guys that were, or are ‘having’ a relation with you
not ‘in’ it. When men ‘have’ a relationship they look for
outside motivations to keep it going, upsides, perks, you be
nice to me and ill be nice to you. You give me what I want and
Ill let you hang around. The trade! When we are ‘IN’ a
relationship this is when we display the FIFTH ELEMENT. It comes
from an internal desire or inspiration to make something
together better than the sum of two parts. Doing whatever it
takes, as selflessly as we are capable of, to grow together in a
mutually enjoyable lasting experience. BIG DIFFERENCE!!!
Men are like a fine wine. They start out like
grapes, and it's our job to stomp on them and keep them in the
dark until they mature into something you'd like to have dinner
with.
Female Author Unknown
SHOCK HORROR
A study by anthropologist Dr Helen Fisher PhD of
Rutgers University has discovered that sex, attraction and love
are split into 3 distinct sections that over lap, but also are
experienced independently.
10 most
common reasons men are monogamous –
1 Too lazy to have sex with someone
else
2 Too shy to have sex with someone
else
3 Don’t want to upset their partners
4 Don’t want to upset their families
5 Don’t want to ruin friendships
6 Don’t want to lose money
7 Haven’t had the opportunity
8 Don’t want to offend god
9 Don’t want to lose what they have
10 has
performance or self esteem anxiety
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